RainOverTalks: What to do when you desire success but don’t achieve it despite all the effort.

Sometimes life can be overwhelming and frustrating. Most especially when you have so much desire to achieve a certain fit and have put in everything you’ve got to ensure you get it. Suddenly, things just took a wrong turn. Sometimes it does not end there, things plunge further to the point that you have to start all over. At this point, you probably feel stupid. You feel like you do not know what you are doing. I bet you even told yourself you must be the dumbest person alive.

The honest truth is that, almost, if not all the successful people you have ever come across or heard of have passed through this same stage before becoming the influential and successful person you look up to today.

The question is, what are you getting wrong? What do you need to do differently? What do you need to change? What do you need to let go? What new lifestyle do you need to adopt?

Well, the first thing you need to do is to take a break. Go to a party with your friends. Go have some fun. Take a breather and relax your brain for a while. Once your brain is relaxed and your muscle tension is at ease, then take these few steps below to navigate the situation:

1. Reflect and reassess: Take some time to reflect on your goals, strategies, and actions. Examine if there are any patterns or common factors that might be hindering your success. Consider whether you are pursuing the right goals or if there are any adjustments that need to be made.
2. Seek feedback and advice: Reach out to mentors, friends, or professionals who can provide you with objective feedback and guidance. Their insights may help you identify areas for improvement or suggest alternative approaches you may not have considered.
3. Develop a growth mindset: Embrace a growth mindset, which believes that abilities and skills can be developed through effort and learning. Understand that setbacks and failures are a natural part of the journey towards success, and use them as opportunities for growth and learning.
4. Set SMART goals: Ensure your goals are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-bound. Break them down into smaller, actionable steps to make them more achievable and manageable.
5. Improve your skills and knowledge: Identify areas where you can enhance your skills or expand your knowledge. Invest time in learning and acquiring new expertise that can contribute to your success. Take courses, attend workshops, or seek out resources that can help you develop the necessary competencies.
6. Stay persistent and resilient: Success often requires perseverance and resilience. Be willing to adapt, learn from failures, and keep trying new approaches. Believe in your abilities and have faith that you can overcome any obstacles on your path to success.
7. Always celebrate your little win: No matter how little the milestone, ensure you celebrate it. This will serve as encouragement to you. This will also help to remind you of how far you have come and keep you focused on your goals.

Nothing good comes easy, they say, and therefore never allow minor setbacks to kill your dreams and aspirations. Keep in mind that there is no victory with a challenge and there is no success with failure. No matter how hard it seems keep moving but do not allow yourself to be stagnant. You will achieve success. Put in the work and believe!