Lagos never sleeps, but days ago, it was louder than usual. The streets buzzed with nightlife, but the real noise wasn’t from the clubs or the honking of impatient drivers on Lekki’s busy roads. It was happening online.
Sophie had spoken! Ghen Ghen!!
The stunning model, known for her elegance and high-profile connections, had just sent social media into a frenzy with a single post:
"Men love to impress until it’s time to deliver."
It didn’t take long for the internet to connect the dots. She was talking about Burna Boy, Africa’s Grammy-winning superstar, and the unfulfilled promise of a Lamborghini truck. The car she had allegedly been expecting, the one that never came.
Screenshots surfaced. A conversation. A hint. A promise. Burna had made it seem like she was getting the luxury SUV, and now, she was calling him out. The reactions were instant and divided.
Some said she had every right to be upset, after all, if a man like Burna Boy, with his millions, hinted at gifting you a car, shouldn’t he follow through? Others scoffed, accusing her of entitlement, calling her the perfect example of modern-day materialism.
And so, the conversation began again.
Gone are the days when love was measured by poetry, handwritten letters, and stolen glances. Now, love is often measured in car keys, vacation tickets, designer bags, and extravagant surprises.
But who made it this way?
Women, they say, are naturally drawn to security. It’s not about greed; it’s about survival. A woman who chooses a man who can provide is simply making a logical choice, one rooted in centuries of human evolution.
Men, on the other hand, are conditioned to believe that their worth is tied to what they can offer. Society rewards the provider, praises the big spender, and mocks the man who cannot afford to keep up.
But here’s the twist, men, the same ones who complain about women being materialistic, are often the biggest enablers of the system they claim to hate.
It’s ironic. The same men who cry about women chasing money are the ones willingly paying for sex, dates, and attention.
They want loyalty but use their wallets to buy temporary affection. They call women gold diggers but don’t hesitate to throw stacks of cash at strippers in a club. They criticize women for expecting gifts but flex their financial power when it’s convenient.
They justify it by saying, “That’s just how the world works.”
But if men themselves believe that love is transactional, why are they upset when women start treating it that way too?
If a man spends money to impress a woman, he’s seen as a boss. If a woman expects the same, she’s suddenly greedy. The hypocrisy is loud.
Materialism or Just Reality?
If a man can afford luxury, is he obligated to share it with his woman? And if a woman expects that, does that make her materialistic, or just aware of her worth?
Some argue that social media has fueled this fire. Women see others receiving grand gifts, extravagant dates, and lavish vacations, so expectations rise. No one wants to be the girl who gets "good morning" texts when others are getting first-class tickets to Dubai.
But then, where is the line between love and transaction?
Does affection lose its purity when gifts become the standard?
Men, too, feel the pressure.
There is an unspoken rule that a man must be financially capable before he can be seen as desirable. A man without money, no matter how kind or loving, is often overlooked.
Burna, despite his success, may have felt that pressure too. Maybe he casually mentioned the Lamborghini in a moment of excitement, not realizing that for Sophie, it wasn’t just words, it was a commitment.
And when he didn’t deliver, she didn’t just see it as a broken promise, she saw it as a reflection of his priorities.
Perhaps, Sophie wasn’t just upset about the car. Maybe, she saw it as something deeper, a symbol of appreciation, proof that she was valued in his life.
Men often misunderstand this. To them, it’s just a gift. To women, it can be a statement.
If a man can afford to spend millions on himself but hesitates when it comes to his woman, does that say something about his love?
Or is love not meant to be measured in material things at all?
As social media continues to debate, one thing is clear, relationships today are different. Money and love have always been connected, but never as openly as now.
Maybe it’s not that women are materialistic. Maybe they’ve just learned that in this world, love without financial security is fragile.
And maybe men aren’t as innocent as they claim. Because the same men who shame women for chasing money will still go out and spend it, on the same women they criticize.
So maybe, just maybe, the problem isn’t women.
Maybe it’s all of us.
For now, Sophie’s Lamborghini remains undelivered. But the conversation? It’s far from over, probably.